She Comes First by Ian Kerner is a groundbreaking book that explores the art of oral sex for women. The book aims to empower women to take control of their sexual pleasure and educate men on how to give their partners the best oral sex experience possible. This book is a must-read for anyone looking to improve their sex life and deepen their understanding of female sexuality.
Chapter 1: The Female Orgasm
The first chapter of She Comes First introduces the concept of the female orgasm and dispels some common myths about women’s sexuality. Kerner explains that the female orgasm is not as simple as it seems and that there are different types of orgasms that women can experience. He also discusses the importance of clitoral stimulation in achieving orgasm and dispels the myth that all women need intercourse to orgasm.
Chapter 2: The Art of Cunnilingus
In the second chapter, Kerner provides a step-by-step guide to giving oral sex to a woman. He explains the importance of preparation, including proper hygiene and setting the mood. He also provides tips on how to use your tongue, lips, and hands to stimulate your partner’s clitoris, labia, and vagina. Kerner also emphasizes the importance of communication and listening to your partner’s feedback to ensure that you are pleasing them.
Chapter 3: Overcoming Performance Anxiety
In this chapter, Kerner addresses the issue of performance anxiety and provides tips on how to overcome it. He explains that anxiety can be caused by fear of rejection, fear of failure, or fear of intimacy. Kerner provides techniques for managing anxiety, including deep breathing, visualization, and positive affirmations. He also emphasizes the importance of communication and openness with your partner to build trust and intimacy.
Chapter 4: The G-Spot
The fourth chapter of She Comes First explores the G-spot, a sensitive area inside the vagina that can lead to intense orgasms when stimulated. Kerner provides tips on how to find the G-spot and stimulate it using your fingers or a sex toy. He also discusses the importance of G-spot stimulation in achieving orgasm and provides techniques for combining G-spot stimulation with clitoral stimulation for maximum pleasure.
Chapter 5: The Female Ejaculation
In this chapter, Kerner explores the phenomenon of female ejaculation, which is the release of a clear, odorless fluid from the female genitals during sexual arousal. He explains that female ejaculation is not as rare as many people think and provides tips on how to encourage it. Kerner also dispels the myth that female ejaculation is always a sign of orgasm and explains that it can be a separate experience.
She Comes First is a comprehensive guide to oral sex for women that provides valuable information for both men and women. Kerner’s approach is positive and empowering, emphasizing the importance of communication, experimentation, and pleasure. By following the tips and techniques provided in this book, readers can deepen their understanding of female sexuality and improve their sex lives.