Polysecure: Open Relationships, Love, and Erotic Innocence is a book written by Jessica Fern that explores the complexities of non-monogamous relationships and how they can be made secure and stable. The book delves into the emotional and psychological aspects of polyamory and how it can be a healthy and fulfilling way of loving multiple people at once. Fern’s book is an essential read for anyone interested in exploring non-monogamous relationships and how to make them work.
Chapter 1: The Polysecure Framework
In the first chapter, Fern introduces the concept of polysecure, which is the ability to maintain secure and stable relationships with multiple partners. She outlines the eight elements of polysecure, which include boundaries, communication, trust, jealousy management, self-care, emotional regulation, and negotiation. Fern also discusses the importance of building a strong foundation of trust and communication in order to create a healthy and successful polyamorous relationship.
Chapter 2: The Power of Erotic Innocence
In this chapter, Fern explores the concept of erotic innocence, which is the idea that people can maintain a sense of innocence and purity in their sexual relationships even as they become more experienced and adventurous. She argues that this sense of innocence can actually enhance the intimacy and connection between partners, and that it is possible to maintain this innocence even in non-monogamous relationships.
Chapter 3: The Polyamorous Lifestyle
In this chapter, Fern provides an overview of the polyamorous lifestyle, including the different types of non-monogamous relationships, such as polyfidelity, swinging, and polyamory. She also discusses the challenges and benefits of living a polyamorous lifestyle, including jealousy management, time management, and the importance of communication and trust.
Chapter 4: The Art of Negotiation
In this chapter, Fern delves into the art of negotiation in polyamorous relationships. She provides tips for successful negotiation, including active listening, setting clear boundaries, and being open to compromise. She also discusses the importance of ongoing negotiation and how it can help to maintain a healthy and stable polyamorous relationship.
Chapter 5: The Power of Self-Care
In this chapter, Fern emphasizes the importance of self-care in polyamorous relationships. She discusses the challenges of managing multiple relationships and how self-care can help to mitigate these challenges. She also provides tips for effective self-care, including exercise, meditation, and spending time alone.
Overall, Polysecure is a comprehensive and insightful guide to creating stable and secure non-monogamous relationships. Through her exploration of the polysecure framework, erotic innocence, the polyamorous lifestyle, negotiation, and self-care, Fern provides readers with the tools they need to navigate the complexities of polyamory and create healthy and fulfilling relationships. Whether you are new to polyamory or have been practicing it for years, this book is an essential read for anyone interested in exploring non-monogamous relationships and how to make them work.